"There is no such thing as Society. There are individual men and women, and there are families."
- Margaret Thatcher
The institution we call marriage is one of the oldest on the planet and is considered a sacrament by every major religion. It has held a role in every human civilization. And although our initial impulses to consummation may be love, the function of marriage is a spiritual one. The union of two opposites for the sole purpose of rising above our individuality to become part of a greater whole. An organism, a relationship. In the best union there will of course be challenges however, we can greatly ease any hardships by making good decisions, not only in our partner but also in the timing of our consummation to our partner.
First last us examine who will make an ideal partner. To do this we need to know our Birthday Number. Simply put, it is the 'reduction' of our birthday to a single digit like so: If we were born on February 28 than our birthday is of course 28. 2 + 8 = 10 and 1 + 0 = 1. We need to know the Birthday Number** of both our self and our partner. If our partner were born on March 3 then we need do no addition since the birthday is the single number 3. We can then check the following chart to determine our compatibility for love and companionship:
1 is compatible with 3, 5 and 9.
2 is compatible with 2, 4, and 6.
3 is compatible with 1, 3, 5, and 6.
4 is compatible with 2, 4, 6, and 8.
5 is compatible with 1, 3, and 9.
6 is compatible with 2, 3, 4, 8, 9.
7 is compatible with 7.
8 is compatible with 4 and 6.
9 is compatible with 1, 3, 5, 6, and 9.
Now that we know whether or not we're compatible with our partner the question of timing arises. When is the best time to marry? To decide that we need to calculate our Personal Year. This is a similar calculation; we simply add the current year to the month and day of birth. Continuing with our example, a person born on February 28 would add 2 + 2 + 8 + 1 + 9 + 8 + 0 = 30 and 3 + 0 = 3. Now that we know our Personal Year there are a few guidelines to keep in mind. First, it is contraindicated to marry in a 9 Personal Year. The reason is that the 9 Personal Year is a year of endings. Not only should marriage be avoided in a 9 Personal Year but, any new project should be put off until the following year which will be a 1, a year which is much better for starting projects. Nothing long term or lasting begins in a 9 Personal Year. The ideal Personal Year to marry in is the 6 Personal Year as this is a year when home, family, and close personal ties can be strengthened. Those are the two extremes and marriage in any other Personal Year will be fine although, it is still best to avoid the 9 and plan for the 6.
Now what should you do if you discover that you and your mate are not compatible? Don't worry! The numbers act as guides and by understanding their meaning you can grow closer to your partner and learn how to avoid the pitfalls and embrace each other's unique quirks!
** Birthday Numbers
# 1 born on the 1st, 10th, 19th, and 28th of any month.
# 2 born on the 2nd, 11th, 20th, and 29th.
# 3 born on the 3rd, 12th, 21st, and 30th.
# 4 born on the 4th, 13th, 22nd, 31st.
# 5 born on the 5th, 14th, and 23rd.
# 6 born on the 6th, 15th, and 24th.
# 7 born on the 7th, 16th, and 25th.
# 8 born on the 8th, 17th, and 26th.
# 9 born on the 9th, 18th, and 27th.
Copyright Jakob Steele 2007